Glorious Burden

There are mothers at the UN working to influence proposed policy that diminishes families and motherhood. This is my statement to those UN policy makers – let them hear from the mothers they seek to replace.

17352203_10154491320242217_5709368134985003240_nA societal movement to diminish motherhood has been in the propaganda mills of elite central planners for generations. This is spelled out in new policy being considered at the UN, and calls for “measures to recognize, reduce and redistribute women’s [and girls’] disproportionate [burden] of unpaid care of care and domestic work…”

Apparently, the propaganda has culminated to this bold moment of honesty, or, the central planners have decided they can wait no longer to win you over with spin. Bottom line: the State wants your children. For over a century, the most forward thinking elitists have prepared for victory on this point: a well-ordered State can raise a child to serve the State better than its parents can.

The State is right. If the end of raising a child is to see it serve the collective well, then the incubator of cradle to career oversight is perfect. Devoid of any real nurturing, the State can raise serfs to its service much more efficiently when love, nurturing, and family loyalty are removed.

But, if the world still wants thinkers, innovators, and people with a sense of humanity, they still need homes with mothers and fathers. Children still need to see adult human beings – appropriately sacrificing for them – to know that this is the surest way to have a life of purpose and joy.

The elitists have made a fatal mistake: they say “burden” like it’s a bad thing. C.S. Lewis once said that homemaking was the ultimate career that made all other careers possible. Policy crafters and influencers forget something as they deride and dismiss motherhood and family life: once upon a time, someone took on the burden of raising…them.aa1a98c87515e5cac989917f20590f4c

Burden indeed. What a glorious burden to be given: the charge of shaping the heart and mind of another human being – one that exists because you loved another human being.

It’s a glorious burden to lose your figure, your sleep, your mind – so you can bring another human being into the world, sit up with her when she has croup, help him get his science fair project finished, and teach him to ride a bicycle. It’s a glorious burden to lose all dignity as you leave your house in sweats that have spit up on them because you’re out of milk, and wear last year’s dress to a piano recital – your stomach in complete knots as if you were the one performing. It’s a glorious burden to read a seventh bed-time story to your children, the words slurring into near-drunken incoherence, as you are the only one who gets sleepy in this night-time ritual nearly as sacred as the family prayer.

It’s a glorious burden to be given a necklace made of macaroni, a sloppy kiss that smears spaghetti sauce on your cheek, and a tiny wad of a love note that says, “I love you, Mom – you are the BIST!” It’s a glorious burden to wander, sleepless, through a darkened house, stopping at the beds of each of your sleeping children, pouring out wept prayers of gratitude and pleading that God will watch over them when you can’t.

Here is what the elitists don’t know, or have forgotten, so far removed from such realities as humanity can be: the very thing that makes motherhood glorious is the fact that it is a burden – a back-breaking, mind-wracking, heart-stretching, soul-forging burden. It’s a glorious burden because it turns us into better, higher human beings for having taken it on.

Every human on this planet started life with a mother and a father. Not everyone takes to parenthood, and tragically, there are still too many children who don’t have the love and sanctifying sacrifice of present parents. But through the millennia, there is no alternative way of raising children that can hold a candle to it. To buy the lie that this is a burden that should be “recognized, reduced, and redistributed” is absurd and dangerous. The glorious burden of motherhood is most definitely to be recognized – as the highest thing a woman can choose to do with her life. Motherhood should be recognized, but it should be reverenced – and protected – for the endangered species that the central planners are trying to make of it.

In spite of the spin, this is the cold hard reality: in spite of the imperfect execution, there are still more parents, around the globe, that freely choose to take on parenting, because it is a glorious burden worth shouldering. Civilization depends on it.6fde27d4da1fda2a55097874defd1e9b

by Laureen Simper

Learn how you can tell the United Nations that Love is Not a Burden at this link.

10 thoughts on “Glorious Burden

  1. Have never been comfortable with most of the labels people apply to Women. There is no mold the the kinda of person I am. But I was privileged to have been given the opportunity to have a child. Even though I had a tough time in the world getting myself to the point that I wanted to be, Mom status! Mostly because I am not a girly, girl! The miracle of being a mom, was the most amazing experience of my whole life, It finally made me whole. I wasn’t the best mom on the planet, but no other mother ever tried with more heart. I love being a mom, it helped me find my heart. And that is the only requirement needed. A whole heart. Most important Job on the planet. Don’t down size mom, please!

  2. I love this Lauren! This is a beautiful depiction of motherhood! A sacrifice so great and so worth it! We get a tiny glimpse of why Jesus Christ sacrificed for us! Thank you for sharing this!

    • Angela – I’m honored to think this helped you. I was planning to write this over the weekend, and as I was praying for guidance, got strong instructions to write it that very minute. I’m so grateful I listened!

  3. Beautifully said. The worth of nurturing children and the elderly is beyond monetary or worldly wealth. I agree that in many countries where marital rape is not recognized, and women have a great number of children for whom they cannot provide, and where husbands are not financially responsible for their families, there are great concerns. But, these are not governmental issues so much as they are attitudinal. If anything, let’s see the U.N. address the need for men in such countries to learn respect for women, marriage, and take responsibility for their families.

  4. This is by far the best article I have ever read on motherhood. Thank you for your articulate testimony of motherhood. Oh boy, do the examples ever ring true!

    My heart swells with gratitude for mothers around the world who stand together defending the most basic institution of society: The Family. Those who fight against the family truly do not understand what it means to devote their time, talents and sacrifice to children and families – and what it does not only for the children – but for the temperance and humility of the adults who labour tirelessly for this cause. Our society needs families – not just for what we can do to raise children – but for what they can do for us to preserve humanity.

    And you’re right – it is a beautiful burden we take on willingly because WE WANT TO.

  5. Powerful. I write about mothers and their babies and have been involved in UN activities. This is an important piece that needs to go far and wide–shout it from the roof tops! Thank you.

  6. Laureen, this is an excellent essay on the value of motherhood. My parents always said that the children do more for the parents that the parents do for the children. This is certainly true in my case. At the moment, I’m alone with my week-old grandson (our 20th), stroking his velvety cheeks and carefully observing the quirky eye-rolling, half smiles, and varied breathing which all newborns seem to exhibit when cradled securely in nurturing arms. I’m second of my parents’ twelve children, have seven of my own, and enthusiastically add to your voice my own. We must never abdicate the right to bear and raise our own children. And we must express (not stridently but certainly emphatically) the fulfillment we each discover in the great privileges of our individual careers as mothers.

  7. I felt no instinct to have children, being an analytical artist, just a belief that it would be a good thing to do. What an amazing, painful, gut-wrenchingly hard & joyful experience I have had! When I think of the selfish, egocentric, know-it-all I was and would still be, if I had not had/adopted children; it terrifies me! My children saved me! They taught me what no teacher could have! “Mother” is a get down & get dirty, “Real Stuff” word & I am blessed & proud to wear the title. Thank you Laureen! for cutting through the pseudo intellectual, mind-numbing, vocabulary gymnastics of our day and providing clarity!!

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